Remember when I posted the tragical statistic of couples only getting 30 minutes a WEEK of quality communication? Remember how I asked just when would a couple find any more time that than, faced with the overwhelming task of just staying on top of the family occupations?
Well today Mr NilsenLife and I had a hot date. We decided we'd go ahead and strip on our front porch. Way to spice things up, right?
It's an old house - ninety plus, actually - and needs a little cosmetic work. This spring, the project is stripping the paint on the front porch, columns and trim, and prepping it for repainting. Can't say that the prospect filled either of us with joy: how to execute a huge task and at the same time keep small people out of lead paint dust and caustic stripping chemicals?
Cue the generous offer of Grandparental Babysitting, and we were faced with an entire day - a beautiful, 70-degree spring day with nothing but the two of us, a can of paint stripper, and a scraping tool called a Five-Way. (Kinky bunch, those housepainters.)
So 9am found us out on the porch, scraping away. Our getup for the hot date consisted of paint-covered jeans, old tshirts, and my hair scraped back under a hat. Didn't matter. We spent our morning working quietly, side-by-side, concentrating on scraping and chipping. By 11:00, though, we'd hit our stride: we chatted about football and the World Cup, about blog posts and the mystery of site traffic, and by the time we got towards 4:00 the conversations had moved on to Big Ticket Items - the topics that never come up in your normal week, due in large part to sheer exhaustion.
We ate lunch together on the steps - spicy salami, pickles & cheddar on baguette. We took turns checking Facebook to see what was going on in the world. (Answer? not much.) We scheduled an iced coffee break, and even had a little impromptu break dance session when the Beastie Boys came on the stereo. (Aw yeah the girl can shake it. Uh huh uh huh...) There was a well-deserved beer towards the end of the afternoon.
Ask an old married couple - ask 'em what they would love to do if they had an entire day together. Chances are they might say something along the lines of "a chance for a whole conversation. A good meal together. Drinking coffee. Dancing. Re-living old times."
That, my friends, is exactly what we did today. I had a whole day of romance, a whole day of connection, a whole day of good times with my best friend. Hot date indeed. I'll strip with you any day, babe.