The decade between 26 and 36 is not overly obvious in the changes it wreaks. Most definitely there are few bits & pieces headed south that weren't, ten years ago, but it's not like there is puberty or even a graduation to mark the passing of the years.
But on the last day of The Aughts when we review such things, the transformations of my life in this decade couldn't be more profound.
I added the title of Mother to my resume. And have been sure that I'll be fired, every day since.
I started the decade loving good food. I end the decade with a love of honest food.
I moved house, I moved continents, and I created Home. (Even after leaving the place I call home.)
I consciously voted for less snark in my life. (Less is a moving target, of course.) For those that knew me in the years before, you will grasp just how groundbreaking this shift was.
I went from believing that marriage is easy to knowing that marriage is hard, but absolutely worth any and all work required.
I went from thinking friends were just lovely to believing that friends belong in the same category as water, food, and oxygen.
I went from traveling to seven different countries in one year (2001) to traveling to seven different preschools in 2009. (Really only one preschool and one elementary, but it feels like more.) I also haven't traveled further than the next state over for two years.
I became an excellent cook. And in the last six, I've cooked spaghetti, black bean chili, and macaroni and cheese at least once a week.
I found a community of faith that, literally, surprised me with its joy, and its depth. Here is a sermon that left my jaw hanging open.
I realized I am a writer. I spent so many years believing that my unique skill laid in appreciating what others wrote, never understanding that my time would come.
I fulfilled almost every childhood dream, and then learned that even a Dream Come True is complicated.
I became more educated than I ever imagined. And I finish the decade aware of just how little I do know.
Somehow, all that I have learned in the last ten years seems to have 'settled' in 2009. More and more I find myself feeling that finally I am glimpsing the Big Picture: that all of the disparate elements listed above have come together to show me the way forward. Is this all a bit mystical for you? I'd say that's something new to me in recent years too.
I am willing to believe there is a great deal out there we don't know, or understand. I know that we must show love, and kindness, to make anything work. So there's my Super Duper Schmooper Big Idea: be kind, show love, and don't ask Kirsten, because she's just figured out she doesn't know all that much.
Happy 2010 to all of you. May it bring you great joy.